tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post2030594368709276151..comments2023-08-06T05:52:29.692-04:00Comments on Keep It Trill: Loving You Will Be Too HardKit (Keep It Trill)http://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-68448959712603401972009-12-02T07:53:02.332-05:002009-12-02T07:53:02.332-05:00Some people see adoption as something they try on....Some people see adoption as something they try on. If it doesn't work, "I'll send him/her back". I heard my own mother say that when she was contemplating adopting a child after I left for college (some empty-nest shit, probably), and had to give her a big lecture. That woman in your article is definitely a horrible person, if now she is trying to cash in on her lack of empathy by selling a book. I wonder if the race of the baby had anything to do with it, but I think she would have abandoned the child if he had been white as well, because she didn't want to be the mom with the retarded kid. <br />I wonder if the kid was retarded at all, all I got from your article is that he was eating his own excrements. I read a study stating that, up to a certain age, children don't share our ideas of what is gross and what is not. That poop doesn't smell worse to them than bananas, for example. And I was told that I did that too a few times, as a baby (sorry for the TMI :)).<br />As you said, some people find it too hard to love their own children, if they are born with problems. Usually, the "blame" is placed upon the woman, because, since she was the one that gave birth to the baby, it must be her fault, right? Even now, when we know that many problems are passed down from the father's side, some people still think like that. And if she makes a "broken baby", the man is entitled to leave her and seek a woman who can give him a healthy heir. Some women live in fear of that, that they might be considered defective and end up alone. I don't think that, in itself, should be an excuse to abandon your baby, but I should just be grateful that I never had to find out. <br />I'm not surprised at much anymore. The media feeds us these myths of the perfect parenthood (especially motherhood) and we swallow them. But truth is that many parents are capable of some scary discrimination.Mariannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13011710820549008685noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-77643157827920817162009-10-17T18:07:21.079-04:002009-10-17T18:07:21.079-04:00"Expecting too much too soon from any relatio..."Expecting too much too soon from any relationship usually kills it."<br /><br />So so true.Monkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10439421216567370562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-34818927190263581272009-10-17T14:14:53.569-04:002009-10-17T14:14:53.569-04:00Mac, That's true, Mac. To prevent so many peop...<b>Mac</b>, That's true, Mac. To prevent so many people getting hurt, especially the kids, I do wish:<br /><br />1) that adoption agencies would have more seasoned social workers screening potential adoptive parents, and<br /><br />2) that private adoption agencies could not charge so much in "fees" for placement of babies, as this seems to me a conflict of interest; and <br /><br />3) public social service departments, where there generally are no fees for adopting, had bigger prevention budgets, especially for severely addicted women - and men. They're often someone's daddy, which folks tend forget about. It wouldn't solve every situation but it would sure help.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-85080227755194902322009-10-17T10:49:07.267-04:002009-10-17T10:49:07.267-04:00Sometimes people care but hold back their feelings...Sometimes people care but hold back their feelings and act as if they don't out of a fear of getting hurt one more time.Mac Daddy Tribute Bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01483912561779369669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-87317714960643188912009-10-17T09:38:39.515-04:002009-10-17T09:38:39.515-04:00JJ Brock,
"She really didn't come across...<b>JJ Brock</b>,<br /><br /><i>"She really didn't come across like someone who cared..."</i><br /><br />My impression too, from her written word.<br /><br /><i>"I've learned that you can love whatever you focus on."</i><br /><br />Nice try. Works occasionally. Noted that you didn't say "whomever". That may be accidental or reflect how uncomfortable these situations are, especially for women who bear the brunt of this kind of social conditioning, i.e. <i>sacrificial love</i>. As a species, we'd have never evolved without it. You get a cyberhug anyway.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-15437311585401182172009-10-17T08:23:03.697-04:002009-10-17T08:23:03.697-04:00Kit I remember seeing and hearing this a couple o...Kit I remember seeing and hearing this a couple of weeks ago...And when I saw the mother on The Morning Show it really pissed me off...She really didn't come across like someone who cared...I've learn that you can love whatever you focus on.Ann Brockhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273380949544392923noreply@blogger.com