tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post3193339030798885983..comments2023-08-06T05:52:29.692-04:00Comments on Keep It Trill: A Mother To All Lost ChildrenKit (Keep It Trill)http://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-1999523268906668322010-05-14T02:35:09.439-04:002010-05-14T02:35:09.439-04:00This was good Kit. Somehow the description of the ...This was good Kit. Somehow the description of the actions of Xavier in the end gave me images of Walter Mathau in the the movie The Odd Couple.<br /><br />LOLRiPPahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08876723972974044402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-91832795462884464142010-05-03T22:10:03.246-04:002010-05-03T22:10:03.246-04:00Redbone Girl, Knuckleheads they are indeed! I used...<b>Redbone Girl</b>, Knuckleheads they are indeed! I used to be one too... not quite that bad but still clueless in so many ways.<br /><br /><b>Oso</b>, Aww, Oso *looking down shyly and kicking pebbles*<br /><br />Thanks. What has made it so hard for me is that I've helped everybody elses child more than I can my own. I suppose this where adolescent rebellion comes into play, along with his other baggage. His psychiatrist once said that if he can make to 25 or 26 w/o harming himself or his life irreparably, he'll probably be okay. <br /><br />This is more true than not for most people, and I hope for you daughter, who is having problems now. You have my empathy.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-71604731371370631842010-05-03T21:56:50.027-04:002010-05-03T21:56:50.027-04:00Kit,
I'd been thinking of this the last couple...Kit,<br />I'd been thinking of this the last couple days.I commented on your actions to help that young man, without expressing my good thoughts for your son, and your hopes and dreams for him.<br />Please excuse my belated comment. I know it's hard, my daughters have had their share of problems, youngest facing some charges that I hope and pray will end in fine/community service.<br />Guess we all got our crosses to bear. Keep up your extraordinary work.Osohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09513535195785731541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-32206289464870192432010-05-03T09:33:59.366-04:002010-05-03T09:33:59.366-04:00You are incredible to say the least. You have suc...You are incredible to say the least. You have such a wonderful spirit to want to help and guide these knuckleheads.<br /><br />Tiffany<br />Peace, Love and Chocolate<br />http://liferequiresmorechocolate.blogspot.comTiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00095653554788017373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-60054643446757166822010-05-02T11:32:46.793-04:002010-05-02T11:32:46.793-04:00Reggie, Thank you. He is a young man with many lim...<b>Reggie</b>, Thank you. He is a young man with many limitations, and it doesn't help that he can be extraordinarily difficult to reason with and live with. The only reason I haven't kicked him out to date is because I know he can't make it without some very strong safety nets. <br /><br />I'm still fighting with SSI to get him approved. He'll then have medical insurance for hospitalizations and medicine (if he takes it), and have money to rent a nice room nearby me when I move.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-1426386848994328052010-05-02T11:09:37.914-04:002010-05-02T11:09:37.914-04:00Xavier is a troubled young man; and as the father ...Xavier is a troubled young man; and as the father of a young man who doesn't always make the right decisions, I can't read this without feeling for you as a parent.<br /><br />We struggle with our children, but they're worth it if for no other reason than the fact that they are our children.<br /><br />I wish you the best of luck with your son.Reggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02228963124180428762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-63829299785828864332010-05-02T08:36:31.982-04:002010-05-02T08:36:31.982-04:00Macon, Well, I hope so. His parents are rooting an...<b>Macon</b>, Well, I hope so. His parents are rooting and probably other relatives are rooting for him too. I think that if anything, I acted as a <i>reinforcement</i> for their belief, in the style of 'it takes a village to raise a child'... can be an effective tool when some in the neighboring village have tried to destroy that child.<br /><br /><b>Oso</b>, Thank you so much. When I was in my 20s and in social work school, I met an unusual black woman who did palm reading as a hobby; she's the only one I ever knew who did this. I was very maternal and my first question was how many kids would I have.<br /><br />She said, "This is weird. It says you will be a mother to many children but they will not be your own."<br /><br />I can't count the number of kids and families I've helped through my profession. I hope I nudged this kid, along with whoever else is trying, to as you say, the other side of the fence. I hate seeing intrinsically good people get messed up, and he's so smart, gentle and well-spoken that it would really pain me to see him go under.Kithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09905267836879005694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-47865467040865496122010-05-02T01:51:17.671-04:002010-05-02T01:51:17.671-04:00Wow, Kit, you might have changed that young man...Wow, Kit, you might have changed that young man's course. That's awesome of you.<br /><br />I have no doubt that white teacher wasn't truly threatened. That part of your story is a great illustration of how much easier it is to bump black kids off the tracks of success than white kids. Damn shame how few white people realize that.macon dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07795547197817128339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-62276163655228224762010-05-02T00:25:43.044-04:002010-05-02T00:25:43.044-04:00Kit,
Reading this, it seems you were intended for ...Kit,<br />Reading this, it seems you were intended for your profession. You did the right thing for a kid who was teetering on the fence, you pushed him in the right direction. And you are realistic and understand your children. As a single parent who raised them I understand their reactions and their personalities, but maybe because they were daughters who I cherished-there are things I don't want to understand. Your dealing with the young man the way you did, I don't think I would had your empathy to perceive him as a person as precious to his own, as your son is to you. Much respect to you.Osohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09513535195785731541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-88185334248059938132010-05-01T19:56:41.649-04:002010-05-01T19:56:41.649-04:00Brownbelle, "It's sad that so many kids f...<b>Brownbelle</b>, <i>"It's sad that so many kids fall into the cracks just because they make one mistake...middle class white kids can get caught running a meth lab and get sent to rehab instead of prison."</i><br /><br />So true, lower income to middle class black kids, and we have to add poor white kids do catch hell in the system. Even then, the white kids still far a little better. One of my son's white friends was stopped in his junky-looking care by a white cop late last year; I forgot why. He had no drivers license on him. The cop let him go with a verbal warning. This child told me he was so relieved because he had been drinking! This isn't to say white cops never give black kids a break, as a few have mine, but they do come fewer. <br /><br />Same with the school system. My daughter, who is a goody-goody, already has noticed how in general, her school is more reactive to black kids in trouble than whites and Latinos. But once again, there are still enough fair and compassionate teachers who talk to the kids rather than using a mistake to hurt them. <br /><br />If the system could weed out those who can't handle power w/o getting abusive, there'd be more trust in it, and I think fewer social problems.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-11285379352965086652010-05-01T19:39:24.740-04:002010-05-01T19:39:24.740-04:00Carey, Hope you don't mind, but I have moved y...<b>Carey</b>, Hope you don't mind, but I have moved your comments about that other post (<a href="http://keepittrill.blogspot.com/2010/04/rethinking-our-history-and-future-of.html" rel="nofollow">Rethinking Our History, And The Future Of A Nation That Produces Nothing</a>), there because after thinking about it, this sort of stuff tends to derail conversation about the post at hand, and confuse people due to lack of context.<br /><br />They should show up soon there.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-43707642334725407772010-05-01T16:24:08.459-04:002010-05-01T16:24:08.459-04:00That's really, really messed up. But I'm g...That's really, really messed up. But I'm glad this young man had someone to try to talk sense into him, and I really hope he listens because it sounds like he has a lot of potential. <br /><br />It makes me glad that my brother was lucky enough to be born mild mannered , skinny, and they type of guy who would rather play soccer than hang around on the block. I know that his ability to assimilate into white culture (if you called and got his voicemail you wouldn't believe he was black), coupled with his intelligence and work ethic has only helped him succeed in life. He recently secured a promotion that should have taken him five more years and a Master's degree to get, but he's just that sharp :-) <br /><br />But having parents who both graduated college and know how to work the system counts for a lot too. It's sad that so many kids fall into the cracks just because they make one mistake...middle class white kids can get caught running a meth lab and get sent to rehab instead of prison.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com