tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post6193747540913866954..comments2023-08-06T05:52:29.692-04:00Comments on Keep It Trill: Barely Titled, Like A Life Barely LivedKit (Keep It Trill)http://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-59814877262004873802010-04-06T18:25:36.405-04:002010-04-06T18:25:36.405-04:00I have a family member who had the opposite experi...I have a family member who had the opposite experience: swearing her son wasn't using when he was. I can tell you that you are happy you're in your position rather than hers. I'm so glad it was just the glue. I hope though that this will actually cause your relationship to improve. You had a legitimate suspicion and you talked to him about it. you gave him the chance to show you that you were mistaken. In short, you treated him as an adult.MountainLaurelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10512030002803787636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-79579361202654187622010-03-21T02:49:59.682-04:002010-03-21T02:49:59.682-04:00Rippa, Thanks. Xavier has always wanted to join th...<b>Rippa</b>, Thanks. Xavier has always wanted to join the military, and I've always thought he'd be a helluva soldier. Problem is, when he tried to enlist several times, he was always told he had to get a GED first. Well, things change. If so, I just hope he comes back fine.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-13286493534187383192010-03-20T23:49:07.809-04:002010-03-20T23:49:07.809-04:00Well Kit, this ended well. And to be honest, it so...Well Kit, this ended well. And to be honest, it sounded even better than The Cosby Show. Lemme ask: has Xavier ever considered going into the military? Have you ever thought of suggesting it to him?RiPPahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08876723972974044402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-13439849839980024362010-03-20T09:45:05.302-04:002010-03-20T09:45:05.302-04:00For those who don't know, Carey currently has ...For those who don't know, Carey currently has a funny but serious post titled <i>God Told You What? Give Me That Phone, I Need His Private Line</i>. The jokester in me replied that for $9.95 per minute, I'd facilitate a 3-way conversation. I was just having fun; hope it wasn't truly embarrassing and if so I'll stop.<br /><br />Anyhoo, Carey, when I said a small number of the population has a serious problem with alcohol, I was comparing them to the overall population where half of all adults report having a drink in the past 30 days without becoming alcoholics, binge drinkers, drunk drivers, or committing a crime while under the influence. <br /><br />In a town of 100 adults, that's not many, but in a nation of nearly 100 million adults - you're absolutely right - it adds up to an awful lot of people and a huge social problem.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-65065185160448553002010-03-20T01:58:11.660-04:002010-03-20T01:58:11.660-04:00"Carey, I agree. Alcohol is a monster for a s..."Carey, I agree. Alcohol is a monster for a small number of the population"<br /><br />Kit, I had to come back (because it is my passion, and day job).<br /><br />One small note/clarification: Yes, alcohol is a monster (the biggest) but "small population" is a misnomer. The number of people that drink Alcohol (because it's "legal")dwarfts that of those that use "illegal drugs". Consequently, the word "small" is misleading. More so, (because it's legal) many people do not see it as a problem. But ultimately, it's simply a slower death, and the scab (symptoms) shows itself in different ways. <br /><br />YES! The laws are the monster. And, money is it's pimp.<br /><br />Yep, I'll hit your e-mail if you promise not to keep embarrassing me @ my blog *lol*<br /><br />But (again, following your lead) there will be a charge for my services... $19.95 a minute *wink*CareyCareyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08832737883766894892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-9170879028593067382010-03-19T23:34:04.366-04:002010-03-19T23:34:04.366-04:00Carey, I agree. Alcohol is a monster for a small n...<b>Carey</b>, I agree. Alcohol is a monster for a small number of the population, and Xavier turns mean when he drinks. He does fine on weed - except the laws are the monster.<br /><br />You said you smell fresh meat... yeah, it's still scary and I know he ain't out of the woods yet. You've been in that forest, seen the light that I talked about in another post, and made it out. Now you're helping others. Feel free to email me about the odds if you want.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-28356347660079594972010-03-19T23:06:06.362-04:002010-03-19T23:06:06.362-04:00The way things worked out is a true blessing. Than...The way things worked out is a true blessing. Thank the maker this situation turned out innocent.<br /><br />Stay strong/loving and keep on him about getting full time work.SW6noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-73013998626546312472010-03-19T22:43:41.125-04:002010-03-19T22:43:41.125-04:00Hello Kit, you know I had to comment.
I spent 30 ...Hello Kit, you know I had to comment.<br /><br />I spent 30 minutes writing a long comment. Unfortunately OR fortunately, it was lost. Maybe it wasn't for everyones "ears". <br /><br />In short, after reading the first part, I waited. After reading the addendum I didn't have the same feelings of relief that's been the prevalent voice/comments.<br /><br />Side note: Alcohol is the most damaging drug 50-1 (easy)(total deaths, money, physical & mental damage, family destruction)it's KING! Can we talk about "hard drugs" <br /><br />This Monday I am addressing a group of graduating college students. I was invited to speak because although these would-be professionals will walk out with a sheep-skin, they are woefully ignorant (professor's words).<br /><br />Sorry for dampening the spirit, but this subject is my passion and I smelled fresh meat. And, this story has been written, BUT the outcome doesn't have to be the same. Imo, the odds are stacked against you (big time!) but there's still hope.CareyCareyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08832737883766894892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-27873639007275880072010-03-19T22:15:12.787-04:002010-03-19T22:15:12.787-04:00Reggie & Curvy Girl, Thank you, and I too am t...<b>Reggie & Curvy Girl</b>, Thank you, and I too am thankful; Lord knows he has enough problems with his mood disorder and ADHD and just being young and too slick for his own good. <br /><br />My greatest fear has been regressing (and he did, through the winter) and that when I move and he begins to live as an independent adult, he'll utterly self-destruct.<br /><br />Today he showed that 1) he's been thinking about all the shit we've been through, and 2) he's made of tougher stuff. <br /><br />Perhaps love, and self-love, does conquer all.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-32663103057867337202010-03-19T21:44:39.272-04:002010-03-19T21:44:39.272-04:00Kit, I am so glad this situation wasn't as it ...Kit, I am so glad this situation wasn't as it originally appeared. Lost for words...in a thankful way.♥ CG ♥https://www.blogger.com/profile/06312573343401136201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-9034858876537191102010-03-19T18:59:57.580-04:002010-03-19T18:59:57.580-04:00Thank God!!!
I read that feeling your pain at the...Thank God!!!<br /><br />I read that feeling your pain at the end of a long f'd up day at work. I'm so very happy to read that it wasn't as bad as it seemed. My son will be 21 in November and I read this wondering what I would say to him under similar circumstances.....and I honestly don't know what I'd do besides be angry as hell!!!Reggiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02228963124180428762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-81346925340998204602010-03-19T16:29:39.125-04:002010-03-19T16:29:39.125-04:00Cactus Rose, The best thing about this incident is...<b>Cactus Rose</b>, The best thing about this incident is it was a catalyst for him to talk about that awful day when almost shot himself, and his feelings about his birth mom using crack. He is far more judgmental of her than I've ever been, <i>and angry,</i> but he projects those feelings of shame and fear onto me.<br /><br />He owned up to what he put himself and me through on that day, but he isn't out of the woods yet. This lil' manchild has many challenges ahead - but at least he appears to be firm with one of his limits: not succumbing to the generational curse by using hard drugs.<br /><br /><b>Readers</b>, I showed the stuff to my daughter when she got home from school. She confirmed it was all part of the original vampire teeth kit - and laughed, saying "I know you felt stupid."<br /><br />Yes and no. I thought of removing this post a little earlier, but I won't, I think it has value in *seeing how dumb Kit is* ... no, in seeing some of the difficulty and heartbreak in caring about and trying to help a child or loved one with these kinds of issues.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-17713058458164322072010-03-19T14:46:10.756-04:002010-03-19T14:46:10.756-04:00OH Thank God! Little balls of glue! Oh my goodness...OH Thank God! Little balls of glue! Oh my goodness!LOL!<br /><br />I'm so glad for you and him, it sounds like he's maturing and is on the way to adulthood and that's a very good thing. <br /><br />Best wishes, and again, so happy for you!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-24903285047516858122010-03-19T13:49:15.860-04:002010-03-19T13:49:15.860-04:00Thank you, Cactus Rose, Big Man, and La. I added a...Thank you, Cactus Rose, Big Man, and La. I added an update/ addendum just now.Kit (Keep It Trill)https://www.blogger.com/profile/03027769872237001801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-62714356341829419222010-03-19T13:06:06.974-04:002010-03-19T13:06:06.974-04:00Oh, no :(
I certainly have no advice to offer, as...Oh, no :(<br /><br />I certainly have no advice to offer, as I have never been in this position and don't have children. So all I have is *hugs*Lahttp://ladidahdi.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-36782265808150177262010-03-19T12:57:45.586-04:002010-03-19T12:57:45.586-04:00This is gut wrenching.
I'm so sorry that you ...This is gut wrenching.<br /><br />I'm so sorry that you will have to deal with this horrible situation.Big Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02510881583909431416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6325219138869173743.post-18919967405998001142010-03-19T11:35:31.116-04:002010-03-19T11:35:31.116-04:00Hi Kit, I'm so sorry to hear this. It’s a shoc...Hi Kit, I'm so sorry to hear this. It’s a shocking thing to discover, unfortunately the only thing we can do for our kids is to try to keep on helping them as long as we can. Even if it breaks our backs, which in some cases it does!<br /><br />My thoughts are that you should immediately initiate a dialogue with him, but not in an accusatory or angry manner, that will alienate him, give him a reason to justify the drug usage, and get you nowhere, and he needs to let you help him. <br /><br />You could say to him, matter of factly, like a friend would, son, you and I both know that you have an addiction,(which of course he will immediately deny), and this is a terrible addiction because crack is relatively cheap and mind bogglingly addictive and you need help, and I’m willing to help you. <br />Also if you have the extra cash on hand you can throw the drugs away and tell him you will pay his creditors! That’s what I would do, even if I didn't have money for food, he must understand that bringing drugs into the home and putting you and your daughter at risk of being arrested, is absolutely unacceptable!<br /><br />You have to try and get him to some sort of rehab. Talk to him coolly, with the facts, and offer him your help. I don't know what your options are as far as rehab, but if he doesn't see things your way, and he may not...then you should make it clear and offer him an ultimatum, either rehab or the cold mean streets. Give him a week or so, see how he reacts, God willing he'll come around.<br /><br />Kit, I'm sorry to say I’m afraid I don't think people are able to leave crack on their own without some sort of outside help.<br /><br />Rest assured that I am elevating prayers for you and us all! God be with you and bless your home and family.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com