Sunday, January 25, 2009

A Path To Less Stress

I've been unwinding after a busy but not terribly productive week. On on positive note, Tuesday's Inauguration was great, wasn't it?

Then it was back to life as I know it: looking for more work, juggling responsibilities, and pondering why problems sometimes hit us from sources we least expect - in our personal lives and the world. Then it's time to step back, reassess, problem solve, and de-stress.

Thus, my first Salsa lesson!

Click that link because right now YouTube and Blogger must be having some sort of pseudo-marital spat, and tell me what you think.

No, that ain't me in the video, but 25 years ago it coulda shoulda have been, 'cause paint me a shade or two darker and that was me. Not just the look, but something about her spirit as she conveys it through her dance... wildly feminine and utterly comfortable with it.

(Young sistas, that's a hint: enjoy your youth because time really does fly, and try to avoid excess snacking!)

And tell me the brotha in the video doesn't look like a lot of fun... If Salsa had been popular around the DC area in the late 70s to mid-80s, I'd have been on it.

However, on Friday night I was dancing with two left feet. Salsa might be like learning how to ride a bicycle, where you're the laughing stock of the 'hood in the beginning, but after you learn you never forget. I was so bad my friend who was trying to teach me asked if I was on crack.

Hmmm... maybe I shoulda been - it might have loosened me up.

Nah, that's a joke.

Anyway, in the wee hours of this morning, my mind roamed to a post I did a few days after Thanksgiving to get y'all thinking ahead of time about resolutions for the New Year. How are you doing with that?

So, on a serious note again, here's part of it below, which illustrates how our bad habits, or minimizing problems, or sticking around too long in a hopeless, toxic situation can get us into a hole.

Otherwise I'm still on chill mode for what's left of the weekend, and will try to visit your blogs soon and post something less fluffy here in a couple days. Have a blessed Sunday.

Chapter 1

I walk down the street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I fall in.
I am lost... I am hopeless.
It isn't my fault.
It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter II

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I pretend I don't see it.
I fall in again.
I can't believe I am in this same place.
But it isn't my fault.
It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter III

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.
I see it there.
I still fall in... it's a habit... but,
my eyes are open.
I know where I am.
It is my fault.
I get out immediately.

Chapter IV

I walk down the same street.
There is a deep hole in the street.
I walk around it.

Chapter V

I walk down another street.


  1. Good to see you walking on that other street.

  2. LMBAO! *winks at Mac*
    That's a private joke.

  3. Insanity= doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.

    I concentrate on consciousness/awareness and being in the moment of now. When I am in the moment, my stress seems to be completely relieved. When I return to the crazy train I call a brain and am all in the past and future, I'm fucking nuts.

    Nice to see my two favorite bloggers here this morning.

  4. LOL, I'm with ya, Kit. Maybe we can meet up and hit the dance floor with double the left feet...hee hee.

  5. I didn't make any new year resolutions. I'm just trying to enjoy my youth more as you mentioned. Be more in the moment.

  6. Sagacious, "Insanity = doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results."

    I couldn't agree more.

    Curvy Girl, We can call it a new dance, eh? The Two Left Feet. Lol.

    Emeritus, Nice choice of balance, given your study schedule.

  7. This might help you with learning to salsa dance and to get to be good at it:

    Black Americans (BA) are good dancers. Pretty much because we are the creators of the [danceable] music that has come out of this nation. But, when it comes to Salsa dancing, I have found that most BAs are horrible at it. One of the reasons I found to be for that is because the music that BAs dance to is in four-four time, and that is the rhythmic pattern that is ingrained into our bodies. (I grew up in a neighbourhood with a lot of Puerto Ricans and some Cubans. During the summer, in the park, the men, with their instruments, would get together to play Salsa/Afro-Cuban music. Also, my mother liked a lot of that music, especially Joe Cuba, so I heard a lot of it in her home and from my neighbours' apartments, too.) So, you have got to shake off the natural inclination to want to move your body in the same way that you do when you hear funk or hip-hop or soul or Motown.

    If you don't have much, or any, Salsa music, here are some on line sources for you:

    --Radio station KCSM (which is 24 hour jazz station in the Bay Area) has a really good Latin Jazz show that broadcasts on Sundays from 2pm to 6pm Pacific Time. Here is link to their website:

    --You can set up a radio station at Pandora Radio. Here is a link for you: Set up a station with Tito Puente (which is a good start) and you will get a radio station programmed with El Rey's and similar artists music.

    The [hard] four-four time also gives one stiffer hips than is required in Salsa dancing, which requires more of a rolling of the hips and a gliding about the floor as opposed to the up-and-down movement that four-four pushes one's body to do.

  8. That's great, Kit! I hope you keep us posted on your progress. redcatbiker's insights are really interesting, and I hope that deprogramming your body like that helps your Salsa efforts. Makes me wonder too if I have white ways of dancing ingrained into me. Not that I ever danced much at all, just like all the other white people around me. Maybe my body's more of a blank slate in this sense. Anyway, have fun with it!

  9. With age comes learn to walk on another street!

    The Salsa is hot! I am taking ballroom dancing in Feb...LOL!

  10. Good reminder.

    Also, don't give up on the dancing.

    I started exercising back in June. It was so difficult. I couldn't even run half a mile without wanting to die. But, I stuck with it and eventually, I got up to being able to do three miles pretty easily, and actually running five miles without stopping. I'm trying to maintain it now, you know stay focused, but it just goes to show you that anything you commit to and stick with can work.

  11. Reading this makes me want to salsa...we actually have a crew of folks here in Maine that salso on the regular. However I have 2 left feet so I have never tried.

  12. is anything safe to eat - my motto is grow your own food and make your own syrup.

    and give lil daddy time folk


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